Thursday, October 06, 2005

Love

Interestingly enough word "LOVE" comes in everyone’s life... and everyone feel this emotion... but everyone has different notions about it... some feel it hurts, some are restless, some are happy, some are sad, some are satisfied, some are not, others are ecstatic... so its a long list of feelings... Still no body has come up with a concrete definition of LOVE...

Love is a common emotion, which is for other person... this feeling changes in intensity and certain other characteristics are added and removed for flavor... There are many other emotions, which are wrongly taken as love... like Obsession, Lust, Sympathy, Attraction etc.In a very short span of time I have known many people and experienced different ways of expressing their emotions. The expression may be different but the meaning always remains the same... I have received enormous amount of LOVE from my family, my friends and my colleagues.

Well love is a constant emotion when it is for family or for a friend, but when it comes for a someone SPECIAL everything changes... the meaning, the intensity, the care, the warmth, the need, expectations, possessiveness... etc. What I have known from my past life and my close one's experiences I feel LOVE is mostly mistaken... and that’s where the experience of love changes with every individual... just because of mere wrong interpretation of a feeling or not reacting to the situations in a practical way leads to a broken relation...

LOVE starts with an attraction it might be physical, might be because of interesting character, or because of name & fame... depend on individual’s preference. This phase doesn’t stay for a long time; because in this phase the eagerness to know about a person grows. After a person knows the other one and he/she accepts as his/her friend a long journey starts. This is friendship phase, a long phase... where you get to know more about a person, his/her nature, family, likes/dislikes, reactions towards things and many more things... although this only depends on how much time both of them spend with each other. The more they stay with each other, early they will get to know bout each other. If both person are coming into a conclusion that the other person will be good for him/her... they start thinking beyond friendship... and this is where the transition takes place... with this phase many problems arrive which most of the time cause fights and arguments... if dealt practically a very enjoyable phase... having fight and then making up... is all together a different experience... In this phase all that a other person demands for is attention and if he/she is not feeling that whatever he/she is getting is not what he/she demands for... dissatisfaction comes... but things stabilize fast if dealt with practicality... There are various issues which comes up in this phase like... not getting optimum time/attention for other person, losing interest of one person, not sharing things with each other, some other person coming in between them more than ten times a day... ( ;-) ), clash of ideas, difference of opinion, many more. After a stabilize phase i guess both the person start knowing each other really well... and can respond to each others demands... and if every problem they have faced in past is solved sensibly and with mutual co-operation, a bigger journey MARRIAGE will always be fruitful.